Let’s talk about New Years, shall we?
Obviously its a widely recognized holiday that serves as a nice excuse to go out with loved ones, drink a few adult beverages, eat some good food, and make some questionable decisions. But let’s be honest, most of us don’t even need New Years as a reason to do that. For some people, New Year’s Eve might as well be another Friday night.
Truthfully, I just don’t see much significance in the changing of the calendar year. The only thing that changes for me is that I spend the next 3 months feeling like an idiot because I’m constantly messing up the dates on forms.
Maybe it’s because I rarely drink, or maybe it’s because my job routinely requires me to be up before 5am (making staying up until midnight a monumental feat)… but for me personally, New Years barely qualifies as a holiday.
Now I know what a lot of you are thinking.
“But Chris, a new year means I can get recreate myself! New year, new me! No more bad vibes!”
To which I respond…
I am ALL FOR wanting to create positive change in your lifestyle. Doesn’t matter if it has to do with health, financial, emotional, spiritual, habitual, or mental issues, I will back you 100% if you’re looking to better yourself.
After all, if you’re not actively trying to better yourself, by default, you’re getting worse.
Hoooooowever, it is an enormous pet peeve of mine when I hear someone say, “When the New Year comes, I’m going to [improve some aspect of my life].” And this is often said right around the end of Thanksgiving or sometime in December.
Ok great, good for you wanting to change.
But why in holy hell do you need to wait for January 1st? Why not change right now?!
I’ll use my job for example. It’s not uncommon for people to tell me that they desperately want, no, need to get their health on track because they’re just sooo unhappy with how they look, feel, and perceive themselves. They’ll tell me all about how their lack of activity, recent weight gain, etc., has negatively affected their lives and emotional well being.
But then they’ll also proceed to tell me that they can’t possibly start working out now because the holidays are here, they’re so busy, the in-laws are flying in, and blah, blah, blah.
I’ll usually give an empathetic nod, but this is more along the lines of what I want to do.
Let’s pretend your house was on fire. If you went to save your spouse/kid/friend only for them to tell you, “I’ll get out in 20 minutes, let me finish this episode of The Big Bang Theory“… would you let them stay in the burning house?
If your friend came to you and confessed they have a dangerous cocaine addiction and needed help, would you let them rip one last huge line of coke before they finally commit to getting clean?
I really hope not, otherwise you’re a dick.
Fires and drug addictions are extreme examples, but it’s the same thing as creating New Year’s resolutions in my book. Someone realizes something must be done in order to improve their life, but for some reason they’ll wait, even it it risks worsening their situation. IT MAKES NO DAMN SENSE.
If something is truly important to you, CHANGE NOW.
“Tomorrow” is an excuse. Tomorrow you will not magically harness the motivation that eluded you today. You want to create change and better yourself? Great. Do it right now. Stop telling yourself that reasons x, y, and z are the reasons you need to wait.
If you need to wait for a new year to create a better you, it’s because you’re a weak willed pussy. And if that statement offends you, it’s probably because you’re a weak willed pussy.
Just callin’ it how I see it.
Don’t use lack of time as an excuse either. Unless you are the CEO of a multibillion dollar company or a single mom with 3 jobs, you are probably not as busy as you think. Turn off your phone, TV, and laptop for an entire day and then proceed to tell me you still have no time. You’d be shocked at how much time you probably waste in a given day by staring at an electronic screen.
Don’t find the time to change, make the time to change.
Some of you might think that putting off your goals another couple of weeks won’t matter. As long as you start January 1st, what’s another 21 days gonna hurt?
Well, let’s assume you wanna lose weight. If done properly, you can expect to lose 1-2lb per week. In 21 days, that could be up to 6lbs lost.
You wanna start being more financially responsible? Put aside just $3 per day for 21 days, and you’ve got $63. That’s a water bill paid off or two tanks worth of gas.
The success and change you desire when you make a New Year’s resolution is achieved by repeatedly winning numerous small battles, not one giant one.
The little things will add up, help you build consistency, develop into habits, and then become the permanent change you wanted in the first place. So yes, those 2-3 weeks that most people ignore because ‘the holidays are here’ make a big difference.
Don’t wait for a new year to be a better you. Do it now.